Think Before “Being Yourself.”

Think Before “Being Yourself.”


The empowering cultural message of today is “Be Yourself.”


And to be honest, that’s a pretty positive idea. Don’t try to fit yourself into the mold that everyone else is already in; be authentic and not fake; be uniquely you, in only the way you can be.


And in a world of unrealistically photoshopped models on magazines, pressure to be at the top, and an obsession with all the glitz and glamour of fame and riches, there’s a stark comparison of ideas we’re hearing: “Be the best,” and “Be yourself.”


“Be yourself” is generally much healthier of a message.


But it’s not where we can stop.


See, there are two sides to this issue.


The first? Don’t let anyone tell you who to be, or put pressure on you to be a pseudo-version of yourself.

But the second is toxic – don’t change who you are because only you know who you want to be.


Perhaps the word “toxic” is too harsh, but the point remains. If we think we’re all set with no room for the Holy Spirit to work in our lives, we mislead ourselves.


I know this verse is somewhat out of the context of the passage, but the truth remains:


1 John 1:8

“If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.”


By nature, we’re flawed, sinful humans. By simply embracing our selfish selves, we let sinful thoughts and actions reign over our existence. I’m not saying that we’re not saved, we’re just not going to mature and become more Christlike.


If being yourself means being snarky and self-centered, rude and “liberated” (aka do-whatever-you-want-without-limits), then no, you shouldn’t be yourself.


By gratifying the natural desires of the flesh, we decide that we know better. We make the decision to reject the Holy Spirit’s power in our lives and instead, indulge in attitudes and engagements that will end up hurting us later.


So where does that leave us? Is it good, or is it bad to embrace who we are?


It’s both.


It’s great to be yourself. In fact, if doing so helps you to maximize your life to grow in your faith and serve God, then by all means, go for it. We all have different personalities, appearances, passions, and dreams for a reason.


But if being yourself gives you the excuse to express yourself in ways that stunt your growth, give power to sin, or disregard the leading of the Holy Spirit, then stop.




Before listening to the so-called “empowering” message of embracing ourselves as we are, let us look above the noise and onto truth.


Will our actions lead us to God, or away from Him?


Will we be using them to serve Him, or just ourselves?


Will the glory go to us after all, or to God?


Does this help us to become the person God has for us to be?


In the end, these questions can only be answered by you. What are your intentions in embracing your inner self?


We can either use our lives to serve God, or serve ourselves – to scream about freedom in Christ or freedom in worldly living – to listen to the Holy Spirit or to listen to the Devil.


What will you choose today?


Today, I choose to think before instinctively being “myself.”



11 Replies to “Think Before “Being Yourself.””

  1. This is incredibly thought provoking, and confronts the “why do I feel so empty syndrome” of our day. True liberation comes from Christ, and knowing how complete we are as we grow in Him (Colossians 2:10).

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    1. I agree! When the world cries “Liberation for all!” they will never find true peace, only illusions of freedom, whereas in Christ, we are truly free and can find satisfaction. Thank you for leaving me a comment! 😉 ❤


  2. You have some interesting thoughts here! Although I’m not sure I entirely agree. Eeep. XD SORRY!
    I mean…I do think it’s very important or EVERYONE to realise they can grow to be a better person, absolutely. No one has excuse to be a subpar human just because “that’s who they are”. No. Definitely no.
    But at the same time, I think that’s a bit different? Like we all need to strive to be BETTER. But I’ve always felt the phrase “be who you are” talks about personality. If you’re loud or quiet or a go-getter or a follower…it doesn’t matter. You are who you are and that’s okay.
    But I do still think I get what you’re saying here. 🙂 😛 We need to change and grow like God wants us to. So yay!


    1. (In retrospect I don’t really think I summed up my thoughts on this very well. GAHHHH. It was a great post!! So I hope my comment isn’t annoying or anything. XD Note to self: don’t comment when it’s late at night and you’re tired. 😂 😂)


    2. You’re totally good! 😀 Never annoying at all.

      I completely understand what you mean, and I didn’t mean that we shouldn’t be ourselves – quirky, unique, and taking advantage of the great personalities that we have!
      What I meant was that a lot of people will use the excuse “that’s just who I am” when they treat others as lesser than them (totally not okay), become bitter (calling it “being realistic”), or take advantage of others (saying they’re just “being smart”).

      But yes! Being who you are is definitely a great thing. When we vastly change our true selves to fit in, we can become fake, which is totally not what we’re going for either! It’s awesome to forget what other people think and just work on developing who we really are.

      (Did that make any sense? I dunno if it did, haha.)

      I like seeing another point of view, really! 😀 Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 😋


    1. Thank you, Paulie B!
      I appreciate your comment so much. That’s exactly what I was trying to get at; the self in Christ is the self we should want to be, and not go back to our sinful ways.
      God bless!


  3. Good post. As in everything, there’s a balance. We should be ourselves and not try to fit into a mold. God made us, He created our personalities, gave us our talents, our interests, our callings, and trying to fit a mold that doesn’t suit how He made us is wrong. But so is using that as an excuse to be rude, unkind, to do what we want instead of what He wants. It really all comes down to using our talents for God. Don’t be yourself just to be yourself because that’s what you want to do. Be yourself to serve God in the ways He has given you with the individual quirks and talents He created you with.


    1. Thank you, Morgan. Yes, exactly. I think it comes down to motives, too – who or what are we serving by our actions? Are we being ourselves so we can have an excuse to do things that honor only us, or to please and serve God instead?
      Thanks for commenting!


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