I remember when all the culture said was “You aren’t good enough.”
I remember when the only valued people were the drop-dead gorgeous ones. The actors; the models.
We were all told as a society that beauty meant skinny, value meant tall, worth something meant attractive.
And then a few years ago, the tables flipped.
The new mentality became “Love your body.”
And at first, that was a good thing. It was a relief to hear from companies and actors that accepting our bodies as they were was perfectly fine, because perfection is impossible, anyway.
But now, we hear it so much. The message that loving your body is the key to happiness. That we’re flawless. That we need nothing to make ourselves any more beautiful, and as long as we remember that, we will be content.
But I don’t agree.
Loving your body as it is does not add any more value to yourself than you had in the first place.
Sound confusing? Let’s break it down.
A while back, all we heard was “Use this product.” “Lose more weight.” “Dye your hair this color.” Basically? Crown yourself center of the universe and focus on making yourself look amazing. Because your value is based on your looks, obviously. #lies
Now, what do we hear? “It doesn’t matter if you’re overweight. It doesn’t matter if you’re weak. It doesn’t matter if you’re unhealthy. Love your body for what you look like, because it’s all beautiful.” So again, what’s it about? Value, still is about looks, just in a different way, now.
But that can’t be where our worth comes from.
We are not valuable because of what we look like, whether we “love” it or not. In a day of “no-makeup” selfies in our Instagram feeds, we’re still saying that we’re beautiful without makeup, and therefore valuable.
But where a “therefore” is not due, we should not put it.
We are valuable because
1) we are made by God, 2) we are loved by God, and 3) we are children of God, temples of the Holy Spirit.
What do those things have to do with? God. Not us. Not our looks. Not our talents.
Our value is determined by who God is and who He has made us to be. [Tweet this!]
There’s nothing wrong at all with loving our bodies. It’s so much better than hating how we look, especially over things we cannot change.
But self-love, though of course important, does not determine our worth.
Loving a favorite piece of jewelry or sentimental item does not make it worth any money; value is intrinsic.
And because we are made by God, we have an intrinsic, unshakable value that no one has the authority to redefine — not even ourselves.
We were made by God, and in His image, which makes us priceless.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
“For you formed my inward parts;
you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well.”
We are loved by Him, who sacrificed His Son for us – we are now blameless in His sight for that reason, and that one alone.
2 Corinthians 5:21
“For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”
The Holy Spirit – God – lives in us. Our souls are not ours alone anymore; they belong to Him.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
With all the talk of positivity regarding our bodies, we must remember that we are valuable regardless of our looks. We are valuable because we were made by God. We have worth because we were saved by Jesus. And we are precious because we are temples of the Holy Spirit.
We are not cherished because of who we are, or what we’ve done – but because of who He is.