Approaching Gender Biblically – Conclusion

Approaching Gender Biblically - Conclusion

This is part 3 of 3 in my miniseries on the Christian view on gender roles, feminism, and things like that. Thanks for sticking with me!

See part 1 here.

See part 2 here.

On Tuesday, I promised to talk about what gender roles look like as a single, because my post was what gender roles should look like in marriage. And obviously I’m not married, as a lot of us here are not. As much as that’s sort of helpful for the future, I’d like to attempt at tackling the question: “What should I do now?”

That, my friend, is a tough question.

But I’ve been doing some research, talking to my parents and friends, and reading, reading, reading. And I think that I’ve come up with somewhat of a coherent post. Please forgive me if I step on any toes, that’s truly not my intention. As the tagline on my site says, “One Christian Teen Girl’s Contemplations,” that’s what these are.

In the first post of these three, I talked about feminism. More specifically, I should say, I’m talking about equality feminism. Feminism that says women and men should strive to have the exact same roles in every aspect of life.

However, as review, what I said in my post is this.

Men and women are absolutely equal. We have equal standing before God. We are all, every one of us, worth the same. We’re all sinners in need of a Savior, and we’re all created by God’s handiwork.

So when we Christians (as women especially) fight for sameness in the name of equality, we discredit God’s design.

There’s a verse in Galatians that many Christians use to support the whole feminism-sameness thing. They say, “It doesn’t matter what your gender is! Define yourself however you’d like!”

Galatians 3:28

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

Okay, that would be a fair argument if that’s what the verse were saying. However, if you read the chapter, you’ll notice that this isn’t talking about discrediting gender. It’s talking about us all being equal before God. We are all children of God because of what He’s done for us.

With that out of the way, I’d like to approach what the whole point of this post is supposed to be.

Living biblically as a single. (Or, as anyone, really.)

What does it look like?

Anyone remember Mary and Martha? In Luke 10:38-42, Jesus came into a village. Two sisters, Mary and Martha were in that village. While Martha’s busy, working really hard, Mary is getting to know Jesus and listening to Him. Jesus says to Martha, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” (v. 42)

See, we needn’t try to prove our worth. We don’t need to try to find our satisfaction in work, or equality (however we try to define that), or whatever. Jesus Christ is the only thing that will satisfy us. A personal relationship with Him – not work, not feminism, not even marriage – is what will fill that hole in our hearts.

When we look to be equal all around (meaning the same in every aspect), we aren’t truly satisfied in who God is and who He has made us to be. We don’t view Him as the ultimate authority in our lives. We want to dictate who we are, what our roles are, and what our gender is.

As Christians, we can’t do that.

C.S. Lewis said, “God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.”

We must remember the basis for our identity. Who we are is found in Him alone. Our relationship with Him is what will satisfy us.

God has created us with equal value (Genesis 1:27). At the same time, in Genesis 2, we see that God creates woman from man. Naturally, that makes us different. There is a defining line between the genders.

We shouldn’t try to fight that line. God is the one that knows best.

So what do we need to do?

Accept our standing before God – that is where our identity is found.


Don’t try to prove ourselves. Among men and women, neither is ‘better’ than the other. We were made in the image of God. Our roles are truly enough.


Take a stand against the feminist movement that tells God that we know better.


And above all else, get to know God and find our ultimate satisfaction in Him. We honestly won’t find it anywhere else.

This post is in no way comprehensive. I hope you’ll look into this topic for yourself (as I will) to understand it even more. Thank you all for reading!


6 Replies to “Approaching Gender Biblically – Conclusion”

  1. I find that in most cases, single women can look forward to Bible Studies about marriage from the time they graduate high school until they walk down the aisle – and they’ll do them anyway just because the Church wants women to know that their purpose is to be wives and mothers. But assuming that a man doesn’t ask a woman to marry him and that she’s one of the unlucky women who just can’t have children anyway – the church just doesn’t know what to do with her. Just ask the single 40, 50, and 60-something women that are everywhere. Sure, she can watch nursery, cook meals, and clean things – but that’s the limit. She can’t be a teacher or preacher because that’s what the men do. Some churches won’t let women read from the Bible aloud because that’s speaking and that’s wrong. Some churches won’t let women wear whatever they like – it has to be jean skirts – no pants or trousers, long hair or a head covering, no make-up, no jewelry, because that’s biblical.
    Jesus’ ministry was bankrolled by women. They followed him in a time where the rules were that they were supposed to stay home in seclusion. They spoke with him in a time where women speaking with men was grounds for their husbands to divorce them. They continued to serve him in a time where that was just unheard of. Junia, Phoebe, Priscilla (Prisca), Mary, Tryphaena, Tryphosa, the mother of Rufus, Persis, Julia, and the sister of Nereus – these women were imprisoned in Roman jails because of the gospel, were teachers and leaders in their own right, and they weren’t the only ones. They inspired women like Perpetua and Felicity, who were among the martyrs of the early church. Some women like Grapte were even given copies of the Bible with which to teach the women, children, and orphans as she was a part of the ‘Order of the Widows’. Single women can do a lot in Christianity, but they have to educate themselves because the church certainly won’t. Granted, in Bible times there was a strict gender division between men and women so much so that a leadership of women had to be created from which to teach women as men who were not kin were not permitted to teach the women as is common today. The point is that there’s historical precedent for women to do more than cook, clean, and watch children.


  2. Yes, God is the only One Who will satisfy, and our identity is in Him. He made us all different, and that is a good thing. We as Christians are supposed to be the Body of Christ, not, say, the hand of Christ. Bodies need all the different parts, and if we all try to be the same one, it doesn’t work. Whoever heard of a body that was all eyes? If you’re a girl, it means God wanted you to be a girl, and you should behave like it, though it doesn’t mean you have to be the same as every other girl. And the same goes for guys. God has a reason for making each of us the way He did, and we shouldn’t try to change that. (Not saying we shouldn’t strive to correct our faults and be more like Jesus, because we should, that would be taking what I’m saying out of context, but I don’t want anyone to accidentally do that.)


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